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On Being Unafraid... Monday Mojo + Magic

To me, being unafraid or fearless doesn't equal not feeling scared or not feeling fear, it just means feeling the fear and doing it anyway (as Susan Jeffers said in her most famous quote).  Taking a chance, daring to dream, choosing a new path.... these are scary things!

To me, being unafraid also means being okay with feeling uncomfortable. Sometimes the best changes and progress come when you're in the midst of an uncomfortable situation. Getting of your comfort zone can precipitate unexpected transformations and surprises.

At my school, the teachers are always being told to 'Get comfortable with being uncomfortable', because this is the best way for us to innovate, create, and learn new things.

Sometimes the hardest thing to do is take a forward step, no matter how small. Taking that step (even whilst being fearful) is letting fear and being unafraid exist together (yes, I think this is possible) as a propellant. 'Fortune favours the bold' as they say!

It's also scary to really 'feel' your feelings, especially the all encompassing ones, and let them flow through you, rather than control you.

I'm much less afraid now than I used to be of sitting with my feelings and letting them wash over and through me. I know they can't hurt me.... only the way I respond to them can. (A great counselor taught me this at a time of emotional turmoil - thank you Pat.)

I feel myself becoming the fearless person I have dreamt of being... Janelle Monae. Circleo of Daydreams. www.circleofdaydreams.com

How about being unafraid to love yourself unconditionally and accept yourself wholly?

Being unafraid to be the real you, and let others 'see' you too?

Being unafraid to say 'no' and hold firm to your boundaries when your self respect and self care demand/deserve it?

Being unafraid to make a mistake and look silly or stupid because you know you really want to try something.

Many people find some or all of these things challenging. People who grew up being people pleasers (like myself),  and wanting to be liked by everyone (to the detriment of themselves), struggle with being more unafraid. We're too frightened of upsetting other people and losing the things we've placed importance on.

Learning to work on my 'unafraidness' has helped me feel happier and more at peace these last 10 years or so. Practising mindfulness, gratitude, and learning the art of 'letting go' have all played a part in my development. Recording and noticing things to be thankful for has led to a new feeling of satisfaction that's not dependent on external validation.

Using things like the 'Serenity Prayer' and 'The Four Agreements' has given me a new perspective about my place in this world, and how to flourish within it.

If you're interested in practicing gratitude in a mindful way, I've created some pages called 'Witness Your Week'. (Click here to get them.)

Building a written gratitude ritual over time has been proven to lead to greater happiness and joy, and a better sense of contentment. I'm more willing to try new things and take risks, because I have a long list of things to be grateful for that aren't dependent on the outcome. 

As Buddha once said:


“Let us rise up and be thankful, because if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.”

(Buddha)


Your dreams, your feelings, your opportunities, your wants, your needs, your talents, your abilities, your worthiness, your inner child, your inner adult, your past, your present, your future.... all these can give us cause for fear (even when they're exciting and good).

Being unafraid is about realising this is okay!

I keep saying the same thing: it's not about being fearless but really just embracing the fears and using them. Kristen Stewart. Circle of Daydreams. www.circleofdaydreams.com

Feeling fear is normal.

Being unafraid to feel the fear and continue anyway (as appropriate), is something I continue to work on so I can facilitate forward movement in situations I think offer hope, potential or opportunity for my personal growth!

How about you?

Are you able to 'feel the fear and do it anyway?'

Is fear itself something that scares you?

Do you have any tips or strategies to help you through whatever fear it is you may be facing?

Happy Monday, Daydreamer.

May your mojo and magic be with you this week as you step forward no matter your fears.

Linda. xox


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(Robert Frost)




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YOU Matter - A Five Day Expose`Of Your Significance (Part 5) Do Your Surroundings Reflect Your Worth?

If you'd like to catch up on the previous 4 parts of YOU Matter, you can check them out below...

YOU Matter - Part 1
YOU Matter - Part 2
YOU Matter - Part 3
YOU Matter - Part 4

Let's get on to our final (and my personal favourite) YOU Matter - Part 5!

Do Your Surroundings Reflect Your Worth?:

Welcome to Day Five of YOU Matter!

It's our last day of diving into the many reasons why YOU matter, and your absolute importance as a worthy human being.

Today I'm going to chat about one of the things most dear to my heart.

HOME.

Your home is the external validation of YOU. It's the one place you truly get to let your personality run rampant and feel completely at ease.

It's there to support and nurture you as you go about your day.

It has a simple strength and power to contribute to your life and how you feel.

Are you making the most of it? Are you creating your rooms in a manner appropriate for someone who matters (YOU)?

Do you treat your surroundings with the respect they deserve as an extension of YOU and your own worth?


“Wherever you live is your temple if you treat it like one.”
(Buddha)

The Importance Of HOME:

As you know if you've read The Creed, I believe creating a home that nurtures our soul is a vital part of creating a life well lived. It doesn't matter how big or small, old or new, makeshift or stay put, trendy or kooky your home is.... what matters is, that for the time you're there, you feel safe, loved, nurtured and comforted.

Yes, home (wherever or whatever that may be) is only a physical space, but I think that having a place to belong, and a place you feel welcome and happy is paramount to emotional well-being.

I don't think it's coincidence that even primitive men and women who lived in caves painted on their walls and decorated them. As humans, most of us seem to have a yearning for making the space around us pleasant to be in.

As someone who matters, you deserve your home to be the most supportive and nourishing soul space it can be.

Home is a name, a word, it is a strong one; stronger than magician ever spoke, or spirit ever answered to. Charles Dickens. www.circleofdaydreams.com

You Are Enough Without The Stuff:

'Things' can become a big part of our lives. We become attached to them, and sometimes 'fill a void' with them. I've moved over 25 times in my life (mostly after I started university), and I currently live with my partner in a small unit with minimum space. I've learned over the years that too much 'stuff' is not conducive to a mindful life, and sometimes even masks and papers over whatever unhappiness I may be trying to deal with at the time. I have items I adore and would never part with, and that's okay. But I've also parted with some items I was supremely attached to for various reasons..... some of which became evident after counseling for a particular type of trauma.

Stuff is interesting, intriguing and encapsulating. In itself, it has no power what-so-ever.... and yet we give it power by transferring feelings and emotions to it. It's way too big a topic to get into deeply here, but suffice to say, you deserve more than being controlled by your stuff (in case that's how you're feeling).

Here are a few fabulous articles from Leo (this guy rocks when it comes to de-cluttering and what sits behind it), about how to deal with clutter.

Rules for getting organized and decluttered - from Zen Habits
Using gratitude to cure the impulse to buy more stuff - also from Zen Habits


“Discover sacred space in the midst of the ordinary, and realize that the ordinary has been extraordinary all along.”
(Victoria Moran - Shelter For The Spirit)

An Homage to HOME - The Creed:

I mentioned The Creed above, and in case you haven't read it yet, here it is reprinted below. I believe it's worth reinforcing/summarizing all the things I believe 'home' is. None of these things conform to any trend or third party ideal of what your home should be. It's all about YOU.

YOU are worthy, and therefore you deserve a home that expresses your worthiness in a way that speaks to you.

The Creed - an homage to HOME. www.circleofdaydreams.com

I believe HOME is so much more than just a shelter... it is an extension of the soul, a representation of the people within, a repository of personality.

I believe HOME is a safe, nurturing, supportive and happy place, where all who abide there feel 'loved' and 'free'.

I believe HOME is a soft place to fall, a welcoming place for family and friends, an incubator of dreams.

I believe HOME is not held to anyone's standards but our own. There are no expectations, no 'we must keep up with the latest fads', no feeling bad if we don't have lots of money to spend on it.

I believe HOME is a melting pot of ideas, emotions, laughter, pets (cats anyone?), people, books, colour, music, conversation, scents, tastes, texture, pattern.... what-ever it is that makes your house a HOME for you.

I believe decorating HOME is more about the 'gut' and the 'heart', than what's 'in' and what's 'out'.

I believe HOME is the champion of our unguarded moments.

YOU deserve a champion, and you have one within your grasp... it's up to you to make it your own.


* Here's 'The Creed' in a printable version.

 

You can download this version, along with the image quote and affirmation featured in this post by clicking on this Day 5 YOU Matter freebie (no strings).


“The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.”
(Maya Angelou)

Today's Take-Aways:

  • Your home (no matter if it's rented, transitory, makeshift, old, new etc) can be an expression of the real you.
  • You can create a home to nourish and support your wellbeing and soul.
  • Little changes can go a long way.... a candle, flowers, a snuggly blanket, a corner to call your own, music.
  • You are worthy of a home that makes you feel happy.
  • Your home is no-ones but yours and the others who reside there. Whatever makes you feel good, is what is worth doing.
  • Simplifying things means you have less to look after and more to notice (you can see things clearly).
  • YOU matter, and therefore so does your home - you deserve a home you love.

A 'HOME' Affirmation:

To finish, here's a lovely affirmation to say whenever you want to feel comforted, safe, and loved...

A 'HOME' Affirmation. www.circleofdaydreams.com

That brings us to the end of our 5 day 'YOU Matter' expose`!

If this is your first stop, and you'd like to catch up on the other 4 days of 'YOU Matter', you'll find them here:

YOU Matter - Part 1
YOU Matter - Part 2
YOU Matter - Part 3
YOU Matter - Part 4

I hope you've found something useful and inspiring within the 5 days to help you realise just how significant and deserving you are. I look forward to seeing you here on the Blog where I'll continue to write about self care, self awareness, self love, and home inspiration (along with daydream inspiration and enchantment)!

Until we meet again,

Warmest blessings, big hugs, and a wink!

Linda. xox

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Thoughtful Way-finding + The Garden of Gratitude...


Once or twice a month, I send out small yet mighty notes of encouragement and support. These emails include way-finding directions, cheer-leading, and ideas to make your journey better one step, one fork in the road, and one magical moment at a time. Free access to The Garden of Gratitude is also yours as soon as you subscribe.

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