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YOU Matter - A Five Day Expose`Of Your Significance (Part 5) Do Your Surroundings Reflect Your Worth?

If you'd like to catch up on the previous 4 parts of YOU Matter, you can check them out below...

YOU Matter - Part 1
YOU Matter - Part 2
YOU Matter - Part 3
YOU Matter - Part 4

Let's get on to our final (and my personal favourite) YOU Matter - Part 5!

Do Your Surroundings Reflect Your Worth?:

Welcome to Day Five of YOU Matter!

It's our last day of diving into the many reasons why YOU matter, and your absolute importance as a worthy human being.

Today I'm going to chat about one of the things most dear to my heart.

HOME.

Your home is the external validation of YOU. It's the one place you truly get to let your personality run rampant and feel completely at ease.

It's there to support and nurture you as you go about your day.

It has a simple strength and power to contribute to your life and how you feel.

Are you making the most of it? Are you creating your rooms in a manner appropriate for someone who matters (YOU)?

Do you treat your surroundings with the respect they deserve as an extension of YOU and your own worth?


“Wherever you live is your temple if you treat it like one.”
(Buddha)

The Importance Of HOME:

As you know if you've read The Creed, I believe creating a home that nurtures our soul is a vital part of creating a life well lived. It doesn't matter how big or small, old or new, makeshift or stay put, trendy or kooky your home is.... what matters is, that for the time you're there, you feel safe, loved, nurtured and comforted.

Yes, home (wherever or whatever that may be) is only a physical space, but I think that having a place to belong, and a place you feel welcome and happy is paramount to emotional well-being.

I don't think it's coincidence that even primitive men and women who lived in caves painted on their walls and decorated them. As humans, most of us seem to have a yearning for making the space around us pleasant to be in.

As someone who matters, you deserve your home to be the most supportive and nourishing soul space it can be.

Home is a name, a word, it is a strong one; stronger than magician ever spoke, or spirit ever answered to. Charles Dickens. www.circleofdaydreams.com

You Are Enough Without The Stuff:

'Things' can become a big part of our lives. We become attached to them, and sometimes 'fill a void' with them. I've moved over 25 times in my life (mostly after I started university), and I currently live with my partner in a small unit with minimum space. I've learned over the years that too much 'stuff' is not conducive to a mindful life, and sometimes even masks and papers over whatever unhappiness I may be trying to deal with at the time. I have items I adore and would never part with, and that's okay. But I've also parted with some items I was supremely attached to for various reasons..... some of which became evident after counseling for a particular type of trauma.

Stuff is interesting, intriguing and encapsulating. In itself, it has no power what-so-ever.... and yet we give it power by transferring feelings and emotions to it. It's way too big a topic to get into deeply here, but suffice to say, you deserve more than being controlled by your stuff (in case that's how you're feeling).

Here are a few fabulous articles from Leo (this guy rocks when it comes to de-cluttering and what sits behind it), about how to deal with clutter.

Rules for getting organized and decluttered - from Zen Habits
Using gratitude to cure the impulse to buy more stuff - also from Zen Habits


“Discover sacred space in the midst of the ordinary, and realize that the ordinary has been extraordinary all along.”
(Victoria Moran - Shelter For The Spirit)

An Homage to HOME - The Creed:

I mentioned The Creed above, and in case you haven't read it yet, here it is reprinted below. I believe it's worth reinforcing/summarizing all the things I believe 'home' is. None of these things conform to any trend or third party ideal of what your home should be. It's all about YOU.

YOU are worthy, and therefore you deserve a home that expresses your worthiness in a way that speaks to you.

The Creed - an homage to HOME. www.circleofdaydreams.com

I believe HOME is so much more than just a shelter... it is an extension of the soul, a representation of the people within, a repository of personality.

I believe HOME is a safe, nurturing, supportive and happy place, where all who abide there feel 'loved' and 'free'.

I believe HOME is a soft place to fall, a welcoming place for family and friends, an incubator of dreams.

I believe HOME is not held to anyone's standards but our own. There are no expectations, no 'we must keep up with the latest fads', no feeling bad if we don't have lots of money to spend on it.

I believe HOME is a melting pot of ideas, emotions, laughter, pets (cats anyone?), people, books, colour, music, conversation, scents, tastes, texture, pattern.... what-ever it is that makes your house a HOME for you.

I believe decorating HOME is more about the 'gut' and the 'heart', than what's 'in' and what's 'out'.

I believe HOME is the champion of our unguarded moments.

YOU deserve a champion, and you have one within your grasp... it's up to you to make it your own.


* Here's 'The Creed' in a printable version.

 

You can download this version, along with the image quote and affirmation featured in this post by clicking on this Day 5 YOU Matter freebie (no strings).


“The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.”
(Maya Angelou)

Today's Take-Aways:

  • Your home (no matter if it's rented, transitory, makeshift, old, new etc) can be an expression of the real you.
  • You can create a home to nourish and support your wellbeing and soul.
  • Little changes can go a long way.... a candle, flowers, a snuggly blanket, a corner to call your own, music.
  • You are worthy of a home that makes you feel happy.
  • Your home is no-ones but yours and the others who reside there. Whatever makes you feel good, is what is worth doing.
  • Simplifying things means you have less to look after and more to notice (you can see things clearly).
  • YOU matter, and therefore so does your home - you deserve a home you love.

A 'HOME' Affirmation:

To finish, here's a lovely affirmation to say whenever you want to feel comforted, safe, and loved...

A 'HOME' Affirmation. www.circleofdaydreams.com

That brings us to the end of our 5 day 'YOU Matter' expose`!

If this is your first stop, and you'd like to catch up on the other 4 days of 'YOU Matter', you'll find them here:

YOU Matter - Part 1
YOU Matter - Part 2
YOU Matter - Part 3
YOU Matter - Part 4

I hope you've found something useful and inspiring within the 5 days to help you realise just how significant and deserving you are. I look forward to seeing you here on the Blog where I'll continue to write about self care, self awareness, self love, and home inspiration (along with daydream inspiration and enchantment)!

Until we meet again,

Warmest blessings, big hugs, and a wink!

Linda. xox

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23 Important Things I Wish I'd Fully Understood Before I Was 23...

23 Important Things I Wish I'd Fully Understood Before I Was 23

1. Some people will like me, some people will love me. Some people won't do either. What's most important is I love, and like myself. To that end, I need to be the best person I can be - for me.

2. Truly listening is a skill that rewards me in spades.

3. Bad things happen to good people, and good things happen to bad people. Life can be heart wrenching and unfair for no good reason. Some things just are. It's not what happens, it's how I react to it.

4. Saying 'no' should not be a precursor to guilt. 'No' can be a sentence in itself, and doesn't require detailed explanations all the time. People pleasing is not a great career option.

5. Shame can suffocate your essence and snuff out your spark. Putting effort into sharing your shame and dealing with it will help lift the burden. Being proactive and calling out your shame is scary, but worth it.

Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change. Brene Brown. Circle of Daydreams. www.circleofdaydreams.com

6. The direction I take is mine to choose. Ideas and tips from others are great, but ultimately I steer my own ship. Any decisions I make are mine, and the consequences that flow from them are mine. Playing the victim only gives away my power. Negativity thwarts pathways for growth.

7. Everyone sees the world through their own filter. If I disagree with them, I remind myself there may be solid reasons why they think like they do. We all come at life from our own perspectives, and the only person who's lived my life is me (and they theirs).

8. I need time alone to recharge and renew myself. This is okay. Others don't need to understand this, or even accept it. It is what it is, and my mindset and health are much better when I include it.

9. Being weird, dorky, or a little off the beaten track is also okay. Besides, the beaten path is well mined... stepping away means I sometimes find a diamond in the rough!

10. Sleep is one of my best friends, and my whole life is better when I treat it as such.

11. Treating my body like a temple means everything else in life improves. But it's okay to treat my body like a fun-house now and then too!

12. Laughter really is the best medicine (along with animals, dancing, singing, art, friends, family, nature, and time).

13. Talking to myself isn't an indicator of madness, it helps me process my feelings and get a handle on things. After all, I think I'm reasonably intelligent, so I'm a good person to have a chat with! Rehearsing future conversations in the shower is also fruitful!

14. Feelings will not kill you. They can also come in cycles. Stuffing them down or bottling them up builds resentment and stunts progress. Best to feel them, let them flow through me, and know life will happen despite them.

15. Keeping my surroundings uncluttered and my cupboards with room to spare feels luxurious and free. My mind is clearer, I feel better, and I'm calmer when I pay attention to the way I create my home and work space. My home is a haven, and a sanctuary for my soul. Putting effort into keeping it that way is therapeutic and brings me joy.

16. Boundaries are a vital part of protecting my inner core and well-being. Respecting myself enough to call out the disrespect of others and walk away from it honours who I am. Being alone is infinitely better than being with someone who treats me poorly.

Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others. Brene Brown. Circle of Daydreams. www.circleofdaydreams.com

17. Letting go when I can't change things, and having the courage to change the things I can, is one of the best pathways to satisfaction and contentment.

You can only lose what you cling to. Buddha. Circle of Daydreams. www.circleofdaydreams.com

18. My intuition and gut feelings are superb indicators of what's real.

19. I should never make a life changing decision while I'm in an extreme mindset or mood. For example: Furious, devastated, ravenous, sleep deprived, shocked, or surprised. This almost always ends with poorly judged outcomes. Although, sometimes I'm in luck and things work out anyway!

20. Invisible threads are the strongest ties. Sometimes there are things driving me I'm not wholly aware of. And sometimes, there are habits or relationships I continue on auto pilot. Breaking detrimental attachments, particularly those I'm not wholly aware of, is something that requires great effort, and sometimes third party support. (I love a good counseling session).

Today, love yourself enough to say goodbye to those things that don't know how to love you back. Alessandra Sagredo. Circle of Daydreams. www.circleofdaydreams.com

21. If I'm trying to play perfectly, then I'm not 'playing' I'm performing. (Unless I'm on stage - that's a playground for me!) If I'm trying to play without leaving any room for mistakes, tangents, or creative muck ups.... then I'm putting on a 'performance' rather than letting loose. Perfectionism can cripple joy.

22. The only person I can control is myself. The only person who can truly make me happy, is me. I am in charge of my own life, and it's not my right to control others. Trying to fix or rescue someone else from their own self destruction is also a form of control. We are all our own entities. Help and advice is nice, as long as it is freely given, and the giver is okay with it being rejected (me included)!

23. I am enough.


23 is almost half of 51, and I'd like to think I learned these things evenly across my time, one every couple of years. But, no.... there seems to have been a snowball effect as I got closer to 40, and then things really started to gather speed and cement themselves as I got to 50.

I'm never going to be perfect, and I'm still going to make many a mistake. The things I've learned may be forgotten and have to be re-learned via a new lesson! But, as long as I approach life with an attitude of gratitude and a willingness to learn, I trust myself to be the best 'me' I can be.

I wonder what lessons I'll be able to look back on in another 10 years or so?!

What about you?

What are the most important things you've learned over time?

(I've added this post to Open Slather on Alicia's wonderful blog!)

Linda. xox

You can download the quotes used in this post right here (no strings).




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Thoughtful Way-finding + The Garden of Gratitude...


Once or twice a month, I send out small yet mighty notes of encouragement and support. These emails include way-finding directions, cheer-leading, and ideas to make your journey better one step, one fork in the road, and one magical moment at a time. Free access to The Garden of Gratitude is also yours as soon as you subscribe.

CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE