self love

Dearest Daydreamer - What Haven't You Done Lately?

The greatest gift you can give yourself is a little bit of your own attention. Anthony J D'Angelo. Circle of Daydreams. www.circleofdaydreams.com

My Dearest Daydreamer,

It's been a little while!

I'm checking in to see how you are....

When was the last time you gave yourself the luxury of doing something special just for you?

Simply because you wanted to?

Because you love it?

And, did you do it with no guilt? Without feeling selfish and terrible for treating yourself with so much importance?

If there's one thing I've learned over time, it's that taking care of myself as if I'm a seriously important person is paramount to experiencing life to the fullest, as well as connecting with others in the most fulfilling way.

I don't mean turning into a narcissistic egomaniac who's unaware of others' feelings and lacking in compassion for anyone else... that wouldn't encourage any type of meaningful relationships. I believe kindness, empathy, and general decency are the touchstones of any life well-lived.

Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line. Lucille Ball. Circle of Daydreams. www.circleofdaydreams.com

But, after 50+ years on this amazing planet, and many tutorials by the 'Universe' in the form of life lessons, I've come to realize that self-care, self-nurturing, and self-love, allow me to sculpt and maintain the best version of myself.

And, creating and growing the 'best' version of myself not only has benefits for me, but for everyone in my life. If I show up for others fully present, feeling centered and at ease, happy in my own skin; then I'm giving them more than I'm capable of if I'm run-down, tired, and worn out from trying to do too much.

Taking time-out for myself reaps so many rewards.

No woman can control her destiny if she doesn't give to herself as much as she gives of herself. Suze Orman. Circle of Daydreama. www.circleofdaydreams.com

So, what is it you love to do that you haven't done lately?

What can you do that will nurture your soul, soothe your worries, inspire your mind, open your heart, and just make you feel darn good?

I'm talking about really simple things.....

  • Taking time out to sit at the beach, watch the waves roll in, and wriggle your toes in the sand
  • Spending half an hour sitting in the sun with a favourite magazine and a cup of tea
  • Snuggling in bed for an extra hour with a good book and nowhere else to be
  • Buying a bunch of beautiful flowers to bloom in your home
  • Taking yourself off to the cinema to catch a fabulous movie
  • Indulging in a long, hot bath with your favourite bubbles and a candle
  • Spending time writing in your journal or creating something
  • Getting a manicure, a pedicure or a massage
  • Giving yourself a facial, including a face scrub, a mask, and a moisturizing treatment
  • Cooking your favourite meal or baking your favourite cake and savouring the taste
  • Sitting quietly with your pet and giving it a cuddle or a pat
  • Walking through a beautiful park or amongst some wonderful trees

Time spent doing simple things you love can rejuvenate your mind, body and soul; and give you the opportunity to replenish your inner well or 'life-force'.

The next time you're running around doing things for everyone else, stop for a moment, and plan to do something for yourself.

You deserve it - totally - and so do your 'significant others'.

Putting yourself first when it comes to self-care and nourishment leads to a win-win situation for everyone. YOU get to feel happier and healthier, and your nearest and dearest get the best YOU possible.

If you'd like more ideas for looking after yourself and sculpting the best version of 'YOU', you can subscribe to my monthly printables showcase here. Beautiful inspiration for you to download and use anywhere you like!

Linda. xox

PS. I'd love you to share the simple ways you put yourself first. How do you take time out to nurture your heart and soul?



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Getting To The Guts of It: Honouring Your Innate Knowings...

Intuition is her 'go to' super-power. Circle of Daydreams. Honouring your Innate Knowings

I've learned many things in my life.

Some I learned quickly!

Some took me so darned long to learn, I'm sure the Universe amplified things on purpose to make sure I got the point.

And how.

I was always one of the 'good girls' growing up. A bit of a perfectionist (alright...a complete perfectionist), and a definite people-pleaser.

I couldn't bear it if someone didn't like me. I tried so freaking hard to be the best I could be for all people, in all ways. (It's exhausting being a people-pleasing-perfectionist).

It took me until my mid 30s to be confident with my own personal decorating style. In the beginning I'd always wonder what others would think of my home. I went through the keeping up with this fad and that fad stage. I bought things that were supposed to be 'in' and 'on trend' even if I wasn't entirely in love with them.

I completely ignored my own decorating intuition.

My homes always looked gorgeous (I thought so anyway!), but they probably weren't a great reflection of my personality, the real me. And, I've a feeling people always felt a teensy bit uncomfortable when they visited..... as if they were sitting on the edge of the sofa too scared to muck up the perfect cushion placement.

I also used to vacuum at least twice (sometimes 4 or more times) a week, and check the dust on top of the door surrounds weekly.

Ha!!! I'm lucky to vacuum once a week and do the door checking thing once in six months now (well, maybe three!).

There's so many other more interesting things to do.

But back to my point....

I found my decorating style in my mid 30s, and I've been following my instincts there ever since. My home makes me wonderfully happy, and enriches my life. That's what matters to me most now. Plus, no-one looks awkward when they come and visit anymore. They like me, so they like my home (even if it's not their style and they wouldn't live there), because it's a part of me!

It took me a trifle longer, another 10 years or so (I needed many lessons), to transfer the use of my instincts to my life in general.

And, I learned the hard way, that for me, the most important rule in life is to TRUST YOUR GUT.

I listen to my Gut closely now, and no decision that's truly been based on a Gut feeling has steered me wrong.

Not one.

The times I have been wrong, I've convinced myself my Gut was telling me something because I desperately wanted it to be that way. But, all the while, if I'd stopped and properly checked in with my innate self, I would have known the best way to turn. At least I can recognise that now, the few times I do stuff up.

It's not a pretty word - GUT. It has grit, and bluntness, and directness about it. It's not an airy, fairy word like intuition (although I love that word too), and it means something other than following your heart (which I'm all about).

You can want something so strongly with your heart (a person, a thing, an idea), but that doesn't always mean it's good or right for you. It once took me over a year of counseling after a disastrous and damaging relationship to get my mind around the whole heart/head/gut thing.

I'm now adept at using my head and rationalising things where I need to, and I also haven't lost my belief in following your heart. But, I now check both of these up against my Gut.

Whichever way stacks up with my Gut (head or heart, or bits of both), that's the way I go.

I think being able to listen to your GUT is a gift we too often choose not to accept. It's that little (yet infinitely wise) whisper that sits right at your core. The one you don't want to listen to sometimes because it's not what your heart or your head is telling you to do. It's the true well from which your authenticity comes.

It's the essence of YOU.

Intuition at its finest.

I actually love the word Gut now. I don't need any fluffy, pretty, nice way to think about doing what's right for me. It's short, it's solid, it's always there. I can rely on it. I know it wants to keep me safe as well as happy.

My heart often runs rampantly away with dreams, wishes, and amazing desires (all of which are fine and worth aiming for). I love that I have the freedom in my life to go after these goals. Awesome!

But, thank goodness, I know my Gut will always be there to support and guide me when I lose my head. When I get completely distracted at the expense of my physical and emotional well-being.

Getting to 'the guts of it' is something that took me a long time to learn, but it's the best thing I've learned in my 50+ years on this planet.

Now, I'm always conscious of honouring myself, and keeping my relationship with my Gut healthy. I hope I never slide back into my old ways. I wouldn't want the Universe to smack me around with another devastating lesson just to prove its point again.

How is your relationship with your Gut?

Linda. xox



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Who and What Really Matters? [Monday Mojo & Magic]


'Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most.'
(Buddha)

This Monday morning, I'm thinking about who and what really matters in my life....

Who and What Really Matters? Circle of Daydreams. www.circleofdaydreams.com

My Mum, who was just starting to feel a glimmer of her old self again after triple bypass heart surgery late last year, had a fall a few weeks ago.

She fractured several ribs and crushed a vertebrae in her back, and spent 3 weeks or so in hospital. She's just come home (literally 30 seconds around the corner from me) and is still shaky and frail. I love her so, and it sobers me to realize at 87 years of age, this woman who has always been so energetic and full of life for her age, is starting to really slow down and is in pain much of the time.

Then, earlier this week, a dear friend received the news that her own mother, the same age as my Mum, is suffering from a nasty form of cancer.

It's reminded me how short life is.

Yes, 87 years is a long time, but the years seem to fly more quickly the older I get, and time now seems measured in moments more than it ever has. If perchance I were blessed to live as long as my Mum has so far, it still means much more of my life has passed than I have left.

Of late, life has also seemed to grow exponentially stressful, overwhelming, and demanding.

Small things pile on top of bigger things, on top of even bigger things, and the load seems extreme.

Time for me to once again take stock.

Breathe.

Step back and consider from a calm perspective.

To let go of the people, activities and tasks making the important moments seemingly part of an ever muttering and mumbling crowd clamoring for my attention.

Time to re-focus on my gratitude practice, and prioritize the things, and more importantly the people, that add true meaning to my life.

I know if I don't care for myself first, then others in my life get a paler version of me, and I fail to give myself the compassion and kindness I deserve as much as anyone.

I want the best me to show up for the time I spend with my loved ones.

I want the best me to stand in the classroom when I'm teaching.

This Monday morning, may you return to what and who really matter (including yourself)...

... and may your mojo be with you, and your inner magic shine through once again.

Linda. xox

PS. I'm adding this blog post to Open Slather and Denyse Whelan's link up this cold and chilly Monday!

PPS. Also linking up with Micro Blog Mondays!




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YOU Matter - A Five Day Expose`Of Your Significance (Part 5) Do Your Surroundings Reflect Your Worth?

If you'd like to catch up on the previous 4 parts of YOU Matter, you can check them out below...

YOU Matter - Part 1
YOU Matter - Part 2
YOU Matter - Part 3
YOU Matter - Part 4

Let's get on to our final (and my personal favourite) YOU Matter - Part 5!

Do Your Surroundings Reflect Your Worth?:

Welcome to Day Five of YOU Matter!

It's our last day of diving into the many reasons why YOU matter, and your absolute importance as a worthy human being.

Today I'm going to chat about one of the things most dear to my heart.

HOME.

Your home is the external validation of YOU. It's the one place you truly get to let your personality run rampant and feel completely at ease.

It's there to support and nurture you as you go about your day.

It has a simple strength and power to contribute to your life and how you feel.

Are you making the most of it? Are you creating your rooms in a manner appropriate for someone who matters (YOU)?

Do you treat your surroundings with the respect they deserve as an extension of YOU and your own worth?


“Wherever you live is your temple if you treat it like one.”
(Buddha)

The Importance Of HOME:

As you know if you've read The Creed, I believe creating a home that nurtures our soul is a vital part of creating a life well lived. It doesn't matter how big or small, old or new, makeshift or stay put, trendy or kooky your home is.... what matters is, that for the time you're there, you feel safe, loved, nurtured and comforted.

Yes, home (wherever or whatever that may be) is only a physical space, but I think that having a place to belong, and a place you feel welcome and happy is paramount to emotional well-being.

I don't think it's coincidence that even primitive men and women who lived in caves painted on their walls and decorated them. As humans, most of us seem to have a yearning for making the space around us pleasant to be in.

As someone who matters, you deserve your home to be the most supportive and nourishing soul space it can be.

Home is a name, a word, it is a strong one; stronger than magician ever spoke, or spirit ever answered to. Charles Dickens. www.circleofdaydreams.com

You Are Enough Without The Stuff:

'Things' can become a big part of our lives. We become attached to them, and sometimes 'fill a void' with them. I've moved over 25 times in my life (mostly after I started university), and I currently live with my partner in a small unit with minimum space. I've learned over the years that too much 'stuff' is not conducive to a mindful life, and sometimes even masks and papers over whatever unhappiness I may be trying to deal with at the time. I have items I adore and would never part with, and that's okay. But I've also parted with some items I was supremely attached to for various reasons..... some of which became evident after counseling for a particular type of trauma.

Stuff is interesting, intriguing and encapsulating. In itself, it has no power what-so-ever.... and yet we give it power by transferring feelings and emotions to it. It's way too big a topic to get into deeply here, but suffice to say, you deserve more than being controlled by your stuff (in case that's how you're feeling).

Here are a few fabulous articles from Leo (this guy rocks when it comes to de-cluttering and what sits behind it), about how to deal with clutter.

Rules for getting organized and decluttered - from Zen Habits
Using gratitude to cure the impulse to buy more stuff - also from Zen Habits


“Discover sacred space in the midst of the ordinary, and realize that the ordinary has been extraordinary all along.”
(Victoria Moran - Shelter For The Spirit)

An Homage to HOME - The Creed:

I mentioned The Creed above, and in case you haven't read it yet, here it is reprinted below. I believe it's worth reinforcing/summarizing all the things I believe 'home' is. None of these things conform to any trend or third party ideal of what your home should be. It's all about YOU.

YOU are worthy, and therefore you deserve a home that expresses your worthiness in a way that speaks to you.

The Creed - an homage to HOME. www.circleofdaydreams.com

I believe HOME is so much more than just a shelter... it is an extension of the soul, a representation of the people within, a repository of personality.

I believe HOME is a safe, nurturing, supportive and happy place, where all who abide there feel 'loved' and 'free'.

I believe HOME is a soft place to fall, a welcoming place for family and friends, an incubator of dreams.

I believe HOME is not held to anyone's standards but our own. There are no expectations, no 'we must keep up with the latest fads', no feeling bad if we don't have lots of money to spend on it.

I believe HOME is a melting pot of ideas, emotions, laughter, pets (cats anyone?), people, books, colour, music, conversation, scents, tastes, texture, pattern.... what-ever it is that makes your house a HOME for you.

I believe decorating HOME is more about the 'gut' and the 'heart', than what's 'in' and what's 'out'.

I believe HOME is the champion of our unguarded moments.

YOU deserve a champion, and you have one within your grasp... it's up to you to make it your own.


* Here's 'The Creed' in a printable version.

 

You can download this version, along with the image quote and affirmation featured in this post by clicking on this Day 5 YOU Matter freebie (no strings).


“The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.”
(Maya Angelou)

Today's Take-Aways:

  • Your home (no matter if it's rented, transitory, makeshift, old, new etc) can be an expression of the real you.
  • You can create a home to nourish and support your wellbeing and soul.
  • Little changes can go a long way.... a candle, flowers, a snuggly blanket, a corner to call your own, music.
  • You are worthy of a home that makes you feel happy.
  • Your home is no-ones but yours and the others who reside there. Whatever makes you feel good, is what is worth doing.
  • Simplifying things means you have less to look after and more to notice (you can see things clearly).
  • YOU matter, and therefore so does your home - you deserve a home you love.

A 'HOME' Affirmation:

To finish, here's a lovely affirmation to say whenever you want to feel comforted, safe, and loved...

A 'HOME' Affirmation. www.circleofdaydreams.com

That brings us to the end of our 5 day 'YOU Matter' expose`!

If this is your first stop, and you'd like to catch up on the other 4 days of 'YOU Matter', you'll find them here:

YOU Matter - Part 1
YOU Matter - Part 2
YOU Matter - Part 3
YOU Matter - Part 4

I hope you've found something useful and inspiring within the 5 days to help you realise just how significant and deserving you are. I look forward to seeing you here on the Blog where I'll continue to write about self care, self awareness, self love, and home inspiration (along with daydream inspiration and enchantment)!

Until we meet again,

Warmest blessings, big hugs, and a wink!

Linda. xox

PS. I've added this post to Open Slather over on One Mother Hen!




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Thoughtful Way-finding + The Garden of Gratitude...


Once or twice a month, I send out small yet mighty notes of encouragement and support. These emails include way-finding directions, cheer-leading, and ideas to make your journey better one step, one fork in the road, and one magical moment at a time. Free access to The Garden of Gratitude is also yours as soon as you subscribe.

CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE